La Dispute

I saw this band at the Canal Club last Tuesday. They're pretty big and I've been listening to them non stop for over a month now. The cool thing about this band is that even though it has mostly hardcore influence, the words behind the breakdowns are so poetic. Two full albums tell of a wife leaving a husband for another man. The lead singer Jordan is an incredible writer and I'm pretty convinced the heart wrenching words he sings is the story of his life. He was a really cool dude and I talked to him outside afterwards with Joe and Laura. I wanted to say "I'll be your new wife." buuut....too soon? ;) Anways, he hugged us all goodbye and was very kind. Even though I can't relate to being in a marriage and being cheated on/left by the love of my life, I seem to identify with this band. I think that somehow when a person is willing to not only be brutally honest, but also extremely vulnerable, it makes you feel like you know them. This show was so much fun, Connor and Tati got mad because I slipped my way into the front for the last two songs and got super rowdy being pushed around and screaming lyrics. They were just worried because there was some people there being violent but it was fine. Along with having a fun time jumping around, the show also moved my heart because these musicians have a genuine love for art and something really special happens when you hear deep poetic stories through music and then see it happen live.

In society today, marriage is looked at as something more along the lines of "I love you and will try to spend the rest of my life with you, for now." rather than a binding for life. Whether you believe it or not, the statistics show that half of marriages today fail. Yep, 50%. It's a sad place to be at. But La Dispute...man, Jordan just GETS IT. Marriage isn't {supposed to be} temporary, but permanent. Holy matrimony. He wanted to work through things, he tried, but she didn't. People rarely try to work through things anymore. It's everywhere in the lyrics - one of my favorite songs, Fairmount, says "Underneath the laughs there lies a need that nobody is getting. And an honesty that doesn't stretch far enough to show us all how much this will mean to us, my dear. And when we're old we'll tell ourselves that we did everything that we could to save this. But now--we do nothing. We were one. What are we now? We move as one." It's bold, and it's raw. It was magical to see the band members' passion come through when they performed. They believe and stand for every word that has been written.

I swear that even with the distance, slowly wearing at your name, your hands still catch the light the right way, and our hearts still beat the same.